Guide to Understanding Neurodivergent Boundaries for Teachers

Are you headed for burnout, or maybe you're already there?

I completely understand. It's a tough place to be, especially if you're nd.

Chances are, it's a good time to talk about boundaries.

I know… gulp.

This post will serve as an organizing hub for the following topics:

What Are Neurodivergent Boundaries?

When most people think about boundaries, they probably think about saying ‘no.'

Which is definitely part of it.

That takes practice.

But when you're talking about ‘neurodivergent boundaries,' there are other considerations as well.

Read more about what are neurodivergent boundaries.

Real Examples of Boundaries

Want to learn about some examples of boundaries?

This post will go into some ideas to try.

You'll be think about what may work, and what might need some changes.

Learn more about boundaries examples.

Why Boundaries Matter

Basically boundaries are there to help keep you safe.

Interestingly, they also end up helping others a great deal.

They can be physical, emotional, mental, time-based, sensory-related, and more.

What happens if you don't set and enforce your boundaries?

You will probably feel more irritated and exhausted.

Also the risk of burnout gets higher!

Learn more about why boundaries matter.

Common Boundary Issues

You're not alone if you face struggles like pressure from administrators or tricky dynamics with colleagues.

Do your families expect to hear back from you immediately?

Handling uncomfortable conversations with parents and navigating their expectations requires practice.

This is a process that gets somewhat easier over time!

I say somewhat because it's never super easy-peasy.

Read the full post on managing common boundary issues.

Why Are Emotional Boundaries Hard for ADHD/Autistic People?

Boundaries are often difficult for those of us who have brains that are wired a little differently.

A lot of this has to do with growing up in a society that values uniformity

It values people dressing a certain way, speaking a certain way.

It discourages non-conformity (and innovation) in any way.

This is true even if the incongruence is not intentional.

Find out more about why boundaries are so difficult for neurodivergent people.

(Everyone is different, of course!)

How Setting Boundaries Can Be Different for Neurodivergent vs Neurotypical People

Along those lines, it can help to think about reframing.

About putting things into perspective.

Lest we fall into the trap of comparison, right?

But since we all do that to some extent, it can be helpful to look at some common patterns.

Read more about how setting boundaries neurodivergent vs neurotypical can differ.

Somatic Experiencing Boundaries Work

The way our bodies store trauma is pretty fascinating.

Have you heard of somatic experiencing?

It has helped me to heal my nervous system, including strengthening boundaries.

Read about my somatic experiencing boundaries work here.

What to Do Next

Now that you understand the importance of understanding neurodivergent boundaries, it's time to take action!

Try a simple boundary-setting activity this week.

Practice saying phrases like, “I need some space,” or “I need a few minutes to think.”

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To learn more about the basics of boundary setting, check out Not Nice by Dr. Aziz Gazipura.